YOU'RE BETTER THAN YOU THINK!
YOU’RE BETTER THAN YOU THINK!
How many of us have truly healthy self-esteem (not big egos) and appreciate how good we really are?
Not many, most of us underestimate our real potential.
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
We are wonderful, capable human beings worthy of love and happiness. We all have a gift to give the world that can't be duplicated. No one else is exactly like us; we are each unique. Hard to believe?
The problem is, we don't believe it. Most of us are used to thinking about all our negative qualities and become expert at putting ourselves down. We have a hard time believing and accepting our own goodness and gifts. Think about how you respond when given a compliment!
When we have a negative attitude, only one person can change it - us. We have the power to choose to change our thinking - if we want to. It takes a courageous person to risk getting positive and hopeful.
I had to reach out and get coaching help to make the changes I needed to make in my life and in my case this meant giving up chemical and behavioural addictions. It was tough, but then life is tough! It has been with it.
Today I can appreciate my goodness and accept love humbly. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Monday, November 8, 2010
Thursday, November 4, 2010
हे अद्दिक्ट! इ'वे हेअर्द आईटी BEFORE
I’ve Heard It (Said It) Before
I was out last week for a meeting not related to my work but for a “community organization”. During the course of the conversation I was asked what I do for a living.
When I told the person, his eyes opened wide, he stated this has happened for a reason, and called another family member in. Funny, they have a family member who has a problem and appears to be in denial about it.
This happens frequently with people I meet; its’ usually never them, but they know someone. Funny, at a point going back in my life I would have said I knew someone who had a problem (my wife would have said the same thing) but I would never have said it was they guy in the mirror. My wife would have pointed me out!
Funny how that works!!
Most addicted people, or people with living issues for that matter, are in denial. While many on the outside may admit they have some issues, most are not being honest. People who care about them want to believe but the funny things, with 10%+ of the population having an addiction (or major living) issue, the truth is the addicted LIE to themselves and to others.
Question is- how do you know when they are lying?
A good friend of mind, Patrick Meninga who writes “Spiritual River” has just done a great article on this. I have posted it in full on my web site, www.hopeserenity.ca. If this article is ringing true with you, I invite you to go over to my site, and read Patrick’s article in full. It certainly hit home with a couple of addicted friends and family in my life!
I was out last week for a meeting not related to my work but for a “community organization”. During the course of the conversation I was asked what I do for a living.
When I told the person, his eyes opened wide, he stated this has happened for a reason, and called another family member in. Funny, they have a family member who has a problem and appears to be in denial about it.
This happens frequently with people I meet; its’ usually never them, but they know someone. Funny, at a point going back in my life I would have said I knew someone who had a problem (my wife would have said the same thing) but I would never have said it was they guy in the mirror. My wife would have pointed me out!
Funny how that works!!
Most addicted people, or people with living issues for that matter, are in denial. While many on the outside may admit they have some issues, most are not being honest. People who care about them want to believe but the funny things, with 10%+ of the population having an addiction (or major living) issue, the truth is the addicted LIE to themselves and to others.
Question is- how do you know when they are lying?
A good friend of mind, Patrick Meninga who writes “Spiritual River” has just done a great article on this. I have posted it in full on my web site, www.hopeserenity.ca. If this article is ringing true with you, I invite you to go over to my site, and read Patrick’s article in full. It certainly hit home with a couple of addicted friends and family in my life!
Monday, January 4, 2010
वांट अ उसेफुल लाइफ?
Want A Useful Life?
Well, here I sit well into a new year. Over this period, I love to take time to reflect back, look at journals that go back many years, and appreciate the journey that has unfolded and what was the underlying motivation to take the journey I continue on.
To the headline question, the answer was a definite yes. I did want a useful life, a life with purpose that was not driven by the material. A life where I felt love for me and could reflect this in service to others, including family and friends.
While addictions had become part of my life, they were not, as I see it, the problem. Living was a problem and my addictions became an escape for me that stymied emotional growth and allowed me to escape how I felt inside. Many turn to other methods of escape that are not commonly seen as addictions, but are escapes from a life the individual feels is not "useful" as they define useful.
In dealing with my issues, and through the various influences that have helped me to recover a life I love today, I became a big fan of the book "Alcoholics Anonymous" and the 12 step programme. Whether addicted or not, any human being who searches for a more useful life and wants to better apply good mental hygiene to their lives, can benefit from these tools, and I use the tools in how and what I coach. I openly acknowledge the gift freely given by those early AAs' to all of us. They are a cornerstone of my life today.
The following line from the "Big Book" of AA says it all as far as my own personal journey goes:
I have since been brought into a new way of living infinitely more satisfying and, I hope, more useful than the life I lived before.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 42-43
Over the time I have been on this journey, and to gain what I feel is a useful life, I have dramatically altered what my ideals are, and in taking the journey, have emerged with new attitudes towards life. Attitudes that help me to feel like I am living a useful life.
The principles of AA were freely given and have been adopted by 150 or more "fellowships" that are helping people create a useful life. As I listen to leading motivational experts and other "popular" authority figures -including Oprah and her spinoffs- I can close my eyes and hear the words and thoughts contained in the Big Book. The thinking is sound and works when learned and put into practice.
If you want a more useful life in 2010, this may be a start point for you.
Thought to Ponder . . .New ideals and new attitudes bring a new life. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Well, here I sit well into a new year. Over this period, I love to take time to reflect back, look at journals that go back many years, and appreciate the journey that has unfolded and what was the underlying motivation to take the journey I continue on.
To the headline question, the answer was a definite yes. I did want a useful life, a life with purpose that was not driven by the material. A life where I felt love for me and could reflect this in service to others, including family and friends.
While addictions had become part of my life, they were not, as I see it, the problem. Living was a problem and my addictions became an escape for me that stymied emotional growth and allowed me to escape how I felt inside. Many turn to other methods of escape that are not commonly seen as addictions, but are escapes from a life the individual feels is not "useful" as they define useful.
In dealing with my issues, and through the various influences that have helped me to recover a life I love today, I became a big fan of the book "Alcoholics Anonymous" and the 12 step programme. Whether addicted or not, any human being who searches for a more useful life and wants to better apply good mental hygiene to their lives, can benefit from these tools, and I use the tools in how and what I coach. I openly acknowledge the gift freely given by those early AAs' to all of us. They are a cornerstone of my life today.
The following line from the "Big Book" of AA says it all as far as my own personal journey goes:
I have since been brought into a new way of living infinitely more satisfying and, I hope, more useful than the life I lived before.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 42-43
Over the time I have been on this journey, and to gain what I feel is a useful life, I have dramatically altered what my ideals are, and in taking the journey, have emerged with new attitudes towards life. Attitudes that help me to feel like I am living a useful life.
The principles of AA were freely given and have been adopted by 150 or more "fellowships" that are helping people create a useful life. As I listen to leading motivational experts and other "popular" authority figures -including Oprah and her spinoffs- I can close my eyes and hear the words and thoughts contained in the Big Book. The thinking is sound and works when learned and put into practice.
If you want a more useful life in 2010, this may be a start point for you.
Thought to Ponder . . .New ideals and new attitudes bring a new life. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
WANT A USEFUL LIFE?
WANT A USEFUL LIFE?
Want A Useful Life?
Well, here I sit well into a new year. Over this period, I love to take time to reflect back, look at journals that go back many years, and appreciate the journey that has unfolded and what was the underlying motivation to take the journey I continue on.
To the headline question, the answer was a definite yes. I did want a useful life, a life with purpose that was not driven by the material. A life where I felt love for me and could reflect this in service to others, including family and friends.
While addictions had become part of my life, they were not, as I see it, the problem. Living was a problem and my addictions became an escape for me that stymied emotional growth and allowed me to escape how I felt inside. Many turn to other methods of escape that are not commonly seen as addictions, but are escapes from a life the individual feels is not "useful" as they define useful.
In dealing with my issues, and through the various influences that have helped me to recover a life I love today, I became a big fan of the book "Alcoholics Anonymous" and the 12 step programme. Whether addicted or not, any human being who searches for a more useful life and wants to better apply good mental hygiene to their lives, can benefit from these tools, and I use the tools in how and what I coach. I openly acknowledge the gift freely given by those early AAs' to all of us. They are a cornerstone of my life today.
The following line from the "Big Book" of AA says it all as far as my own personal journey goes:
I have since been brought into a new way of living infinitely more satisfying and, I hope, more useful than the life I lived before.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 42-43
Over the time I have been on this journey, and to gain what I feel is a useful life, I have dramatically altered what my ideals are, and in taking the journey, have emerged with new attitudes towards life. Attitudes that help me to feel like I am living a useful life.
The principles of AA were freely given and have been adopted by 150 or more "fellowships" that are helping people create a useful life. As I listen to leading motivational experts and other "popular" authority figures -including Oprah and her spinoffs- I can close my eyes and hear the words and thoughts contained in the Big Book. The thinking is sound and works when learned and put into practice.
If you want a more useful life in 2010, this may be a start point for you.
Thought to Ponder . . .New ideals and new attitudes bring a new life. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Want A Useful Life?
Well, here I sit well into a new year. Over this period, I love to take time to reflect back, look at journals that go back many years, and appreciate the journey that has unfolded and what was the underlying motivation to take the journey I continue on.
To the headline question, the answer was a definite yes. I did want a useful life, a life with purpose that was not driven by the material. A life where I felt love for me and could reflect this in service to others, including family and friends.
While addictions had become part of my life, they were not, as I see it, the problem. Living was a problem and my addictions became an escape for me that stymied emotional growth and allowed me to escape how I felt inside. Many turn to other methods of escape that are not commonly seen as addictions, but are escapes from a life the individual feels is not "useful" as they define useful.
In dealing with my issues, and through the various influences that have helped me to recover a life I love today, I became a big fan of the book "Alcoholics Anonymous" and the 12 step programme. Whether addicted or not, any human being who searches for a more useful life and wants to better apply good mental hygiene to their lives, can benefit from these tools, and I use the tools in how and what I coach. I openly acknowledge the gift freely given by those early AAs' to all of us. They are a cornerstone of my life today.
The following line from the "Big Book" of AA says it all as far as my own personal journey goes:
I have since been brought into a new way of living infinitely more satisfying and, I hope, more useful than the life I lived before.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 42-43
Over the time I have been on this journey, and to gain what I feel is a useful life, I have dramatically altered what my ideals are, and in taking the journey, have emerged with new attitudes towards life. Attitudes that help me to feel like I am living a useful life.
The principles of AA were freely given and have been adopted by 150 or more "fellowships" that are helping people create a useful life. As I listen to leading motivational experts and other "popular" authority figures -including Oprah and her spinoffs- I can close my eyes and hear the words and thoughts contained in the Big Book. The thinking is sound and works when learned and put into practice.
If you want a more useful life in 2010, this may be a start point for you.
Thought to Ponder . . .New ideals and new attitudes bring a new life. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Saturday, January 2, 2010
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